Reflections

I missed the recent postings till now and am really glad to see the issues being brought forth. I will first like to apologize to OL for not showing the empathy and support you had needed. Will apologize to you personally when we meet up k. Thank you Kunge for relaying the message. I am definitely guilty of not showing empathy, something to do with my personality and a major flaw that is really stopping me from doing my job well, but I think there are definitely some in our clique who are more sensitive to your problems and have shown you support and so I don't think GMH is entirely a lost cause.

I'm a very private person and I don't share my problems readily with others. I think most of you wouldn't have heard me share my problems much. Perhaps you would have heard complains but probably never would have heard me speak in depth about my problems. In fact, most of you wouldn't really know of my interests, hobbies etc or what is happening in my life other than the apparent major events. It's the way I am and like to be treated and that's why I sometimes treat others the same way too, which means I wouldn't take the initiative to approach any of you and ask about your problems though I am definitely willing to provide a listening ear. Yes, I am insensitive to a fault and so please let me know explicitly if any of you need any help. On my part, I will try my best to be more sensitive to the needs of others which is something that Kellin is trying to teach me as well.

I think there is some truth to some of us being more self-centred which I think is natural when we move from being individuals to becoming part of a family unit. Time to hangout and stuff will lessen once we have more personal commitments and duties but what matters most is that when someone needs support, we are there. Like for example, most of us would not think twice about making time to head down for the funeral of a friend's relative or for the celebration of the birth of a new life in our big family. I may not be there for the frequent outings but I definitely will make time for the core events.

To me, the amazing thing about friendship is that friends remain friends even without frequent meetups and are always there when there is a need. Which is why im sorry for not seeing OL's problem and showing the needed support. If I'm guilty of the same to any of the rest, let me apologize and do let me know that I have.

Ah Teh